This test is something that is new that I took. Some of the results relate to previous areas I've tested in.
To start my anxious style scored average indicating that I have tendency to stress, worry, be tense, and anxious. Though it may not be excessive it does bring discomfort.
My self-esteem score averaged out indicating that it's ok but could be better. There are times that I can be overly critical of myself and lack self confidence. Meaning I may not achieve to the degree which I'm capable of due to the self criticism of the way I judge myself and my efforts. Although this style doesn't significantly interfere with my satisfaction and success in life, I could improve which would help in chances for success in work, relationships and other aspects of life by improving my self-esteem.
The perfectionistic style scored high indicating I have high perfecrionistic expectations of myself and others. This of course would be high as my secondary driving force is Perfectionism. Perfectionism is not "being perfect" but the belief that everything should be perfect and the inability to accept failure. " This style causes you to be excessively stressed by the demands you place on yourself. You are also likely to be overly-critical of yourself which affects your self-esteem. You can feel good about yourself when you are successful, but failure or mistakes leads to negative self-evaluation and avoidance".
Approval seeking style also scored high and isn't a surprise. This indicates that "you have a low level of autonomy, the ability to act independently of what others might expect. You tend to worry a great deal about the approval of others and your actions and decisions are frequently based upon how you think others might think. You tend to be overly dependent upon others.
You are particularly concerned about being judged negatively by others. There may be situations that you avoid due to fear of judgment or disapproval. For instance, you might avoid disagreeing with others for fear it would lead to conflict and rejection. Or, you might have trouble saying "no" to requests.
In social situations, you may not feel comfortable just being yourself and feel that you have to act a certain way to obtain approval. You may also feel resentment always trying to meet the expectations of others which could affect your relationships. The irrational beliefs associated with this style of thinking include mind-reading others, negative evaluation of self, catastrophizing, labeling self, and personalizing". The irrational beliefs that affect me is the mind-reading others mainly and the others are minor.
Demand style average score "indicates that you tend to make some demands and have expectations for others. You also tend to have some concern about the impression that others have of you. You may judge others and tend to criticize or place blame but not to an excessive degree.
Although this style may not be causing significant problems in your life, you could make improvements that will allow your relationships to be more satisfying. In addition, you could reduce your need to manage how others think of you which interferes with being genuine".
Withholding styles average score indicates that "you are not particularly private or reserved in your interactions with others. You usually can handle social situations and can solve interpersonal problems directly. Also, you are not overly divulging of your feelings and personal information.
This balanced approach is effective in handling most social situations and is not likely to cause misunderstandings or miscommunication with others. You are cautious to not provide too much information to people too soon, but you can also interact comfortably and freely with others".
Control style scored low indicating that I'm influenced by external factors and don't believe that my efforts will lead to success. Always looking for that "lucky break" or someone to make my life better. This leads to missed opportunities which increases negative thinking.
My dependency style I touch on in another post when it came to co-dependency. I scored high here indicating high dependency on others. Unable to make choices without the approval of others. The inability to trust my own judgment and abilities.
Externalizing style scored average which "indicates that you believe that your happiness and satisfaction in life is based upon both the things that happen to you and upon the perspective that you have about those things. Even though you may become distressed due to events that occur, you still try to take a balanced perspective and see the positive in situations as well.
Although your approach is fairly balanced, there may be times when you are too focused on the negative and need assistance to look at the situation in a different way".
Emotional style was an average score, "indicates that you are emotionally reactive to some degree, most likely it depends upon the situation. Your emotions may impact the decisions you make, how you handle a problem, or the things you decide to do, but your emotions are not likely to prevent you from pursuing important desires or interfere with difficult situations.
It may be important for you to be aware of when you are being directed by your emotions so that you can use the information provided by the emotions but not act based solely on the emotion without consideration of its validity".
Passivity style "average score indicates that you will assert yourself as necessary to protect yourself. However, there are times when you may believe it isn't worth the effort and allow someone to take advantage of you. You usually evaluate these situations based on the potential outcome and how important it is to you. Therefore, when you determine something is important you are less likely to back down or allow someone to use you or take credit for your work.
Although this doesn't affect your life to a serious degree, you could achieve more of what you want and meet your needs by being more assertive. You may want to determine which situations cause you more difficulty and address the thinking that interferes with being direct and assertive".
My trust style scored average which "indicates that you neither are overly distrustful of other people nor are you naively trusting. You tend to evaluate people based on the evidence you have about their behavior and determine whether they can be trusted.
You are not particularly suspicious of people's motives but you recognize that others may not have your best interests in mind. Therefore, you are cautious with people you don't know but you are not avoidant".
Finally, the blaming style was a low score "indicates that you rarely get angry or act aggressively. You are unlikely to cause problems with others due to anger and unlikely to focus blame on others. You mood is generally stable and you don't react to others with irritability. Or criticim.
You are likely to take responsibility for your problems and not try to focus blame on others. Your relationships are likely to be free of conflict".